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Seven Secrets Of Marriage by Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo! [LDM WEDDING ANNIVERSARY SPECIAL]
Friday, November 23, 2012Omoba
Are you Married? Or you intend settling down with
the person of your dreams, Then I recommend you take time out to read this
special piece, This happens to be the special edition of David’s Christian
Centre’s Love, Dating & Marriage
(This takes place every first Sunday of the month at DCC [Victory Dome], hosted
by Pastors Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo
who celebrated their 7th wedding anniversary).
1- BOTH OF THEM ARE
COMMITTED TO GOD.
The operant words
is-ARE! As it is a continuous thing.
Ecclesiastes 4:11- 12:
Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord
is not quickly broken.
The third person here is God, we need God.
Don’t marry an unbeliever
with the hope that you will change them. You don’t have the ability to
change any man or human being. Only the Holy spirit can do that. Even you as a
person, have you discovered how difficult it is to even change yourself? How
much more another person.
From day 1, it is
important for both parties to be committed to God. Some of you may
ask? How do I know a serious Christian? If you are not a good
Christian, that’s when you can’t recognize a good Christian. You must
first of become a serious Christian yourself. You must have a living, vital
connection with God.
Remember that marriage
was God’s idea, not Adam’s, not humans or talk show hosts. It is
spiritual. It takes two spiritually mature people to enjoy and be fulfilled by
marriage.
Marriage doesn’t
change anyone. What you do as a Christian is what you need to do in marriage
e.g loving, forgiving etc.
Women, remember that
submission is key! However, submission has its conditions. Submit to one who
has an authority over him. In England, I bank with HSBC, in Nigeria, with
Ecobank because I trust them with my money and know they’re governed by
responsible authorities. I would never put my money in a road side bank with no
legal protection because I will be putting my money at risk. It is the same thing
with marriage. Women, submit to a man that has God and his pastors as
authorities over him because he will be accountable. Don’t marry a man who has
nobody to submit to.
Men, please read
Ephesians 5:22-29, Ephesians 5:25 means
putting your wife first and giving her the best.
2- BOTH OF THEM DECIDED
THAT THEY COULD HAVE A QUARREL FREE MARRIAGE.
You need to make up
your mind from the beginning. The moment you expect problems, you will receive
them. Fighting doesn't help anything. Be determined never to fight! You may
have differences and otherwise but agree to always settle them amicably and
instantly! Amen.
3- BOTH OF THEM ARE GIVERS.
This didn’t start when
they met or when they decided to marry but as single individuals, they were
already givers.
Marriage is not about
taking but giving. As a single, deal with stinginess and greed. Be a giver by
nature.
1 Corinthians 7:34-
There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman
careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in
spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may
please her husband.
You will need to give
unto your spouse and please them! Be prepared for this by practising this as a
single person. Amen.
Marriage is about
giving. Service in Church is a good practise. For example, as a worker, you are
sent on several errands, some congregants may be rude to you but you just smile
and do your job. These are things you will need in marriage.
It takes a service-orientated
person to be good in marriage.
Also, observe your
intended spouse. How are they with their tithes? Do they pay them completely
and faithfully or they don’t believe in tithing. I always say this- A person
that pays their tithes cheerfully, is a cheerful and giving partner! Amen.
Watch out for the
giver because marriage is about two people giving to each other.
4- BOTH OF THEM HEARD GOD
ABOUT MARRYING EACH OTHER.
Proverbs
3:5-6- Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own
understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Don’t wait for
marriage to hear God. Learn to hear His voice before then and be led by Him so
you do not make a mistake.
5- THEY BOTH HAVE A
SINGLE VISION.
When two of you marry,
please have a goal for the marriage. A family Vision is very vital.
Genesis
11:6- “Look!” he said. “The people are united, and they all speak the same
language. After this, nothing they set out to do will be impossible for them!
Have a clear, concise
and defined vision for your marriage/family. Something that you will both work
towards.
6- THEY WERE BOTH FRIENDS
Be friends! Don’t look
for a wife and make her your friend.. Amongst your friends, look for a wife.
Become friends with people, so you know their true nature and know if you get
on or not and on that basis/platform, you can build a relationship and
marriage. Amen.
7. THEY WILL BE AN
AGREEMENT TO BE OPEN TO EACH OTHER AT ALL TIMES
Genesis 2:25- And
they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
One of my favourite
Bible verses. This doesn’t refer to a physical nakedness alone but spiritual,
financial, emotional, sexual, personal. As a married couple, do not hide
anything from your spouse. If you do not hide your bodies from one another, why
are you hiding your phone, laptop and magazines. Be open! The Word commands it
to be so!
There ought to be
openness, transparency and honesty in every area and communicate your feelings
at all times.
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2 comments
Awwwwww so am on your blog all because of Pastor kingsley's message?lol
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